In a now-viral post, a worker said they received a “disrespectful” text from their boss after requesting a “mental health day.”
The worker, u/MehLifesavings, shared a screenshot of a text in Reddit’s “Antiwork” forum, asking: “What would your response have been?” The post has amassed over 35,000 upvotes and thousands of comments from Redditors who couldn’t agree if the text was actually rude or not.
“Work was really draining the life out of me and [I] was on the verge of quitting,” u/MehLifesavings said in their post. “I asked for one mental health day and he responds with this.”
According to the screenshot, u/MehLifesavings told their boss that, “if possible,” they’d like to use a sick day to “focus on [their] mental health.” The full post is here.
In his response, their boss wrote: “I’ve noticed something not right with you. I don’t know what kind of mental issues you’re going through but sitting around thinking about it all day will not help you that’s just my opinion but it’s up to you.”
Rather than respond to the “disrespectful” message, u/MehLifesavings said they “left [their boss] on read” and proceeded to take the day off.
How to Request a Sick Day
According to employment website Indeed, there is a “right way” to call out sick from work.
First and foremost, employees need to determine the best way to contact their managers and then reach out to them as soon as possible. Then in their message, employees should explain their availability and provide any information their teams may need while they’re away.
“For example, if the employee leaves before an all-hands meeting, they can let management know who to contact for meeting-specific information. This eases the employee’s and the business’s transition into the leave of absence,” Indeed said.
Workers should also be “brief” and “professional” when stating why they need to take a sick day.
“Managers don’t need to know personal details about the illness or private discussions with a doctor,” Indeed said.
Some argued that their boss’s response wasn’t that bad, many chastised the Redditor for divulging too much information, and others agreed with the OP.
“Excuse me, but that seemed like a perfectly fine response to me. If you feel like you need that day off [and] he’s willing to give it to you…isn’t that what’s important?” u/Cricklet asked. “He’s not threatening you, he’s not saying you’re a cry baby…your boss doesn’t seem that bad. “
“I don’t feel like that was offensive. He was just giving his opinion, which is kind of logical,” u/Knappyone commented. “He said it’s up to you, so take it. But like the other people are saying, you don’t have to volunteer all the details of your illness. Next time I would just say that you are unwell and leave it at that. “
u/Erdosainn added: “If you share unsolicited information about your mental health with a stranger, you will get unsolicited opinions about your mental health from a stranger.”
Others, however, were upset by the boss’s text.
“I believe a ‘get f**cked’ is in order,” u/WeabooBaby said.
“No wonder you need a mental health day, your direct report is af**k face, and I would have to bet it only gets worse the further up you go,” u/LoveAndProse offered.
“Report him to HR holy s**t,” u/TheOnlyTori advised.
Newsweek has reached out to u/MehLifesavings for comment.
Other Viral ‘Antiwork’ Posts
On Tuesday, Redditors roasted an Applebee’s supervisor who hit on a job applicant via text.
An employee went viral last week after sharing a photo of the insulting message their boss wrote on their final check.
And a remote employee also went viral last week after posting a video of the moment her boss asked to “chat” while she was shopping at Ross.